“I wanted to turn my divorce into a positive. What if I didn’t blame the other person for anything, and held myself 100-percent accountable? What if I checked my…[issues]at the door and put my children first? And reminded myself about the things about my ex-husband that I love, and fostered the friendship?” – Gwyneth Paltrow
The first question that can be asked is, what does emotion have to do with the legal process that ends the marital union between two partners? The simple answer to this question is: “Nothing!” The separation of the marriage is solely a legal process. However, the fact is that the practicalities of the divorce process are both an emotional and legal process.
Therefore, it makes sense to ponder ways to survive the emotional upheaval that accompanies the divorce proceedings. Also, it is a fact that the longer the legal process takes, the worse the emotional roller-coaster. Thus, here are several tips to help you get through a divorce as quickly and efficiently as possible.
Employ a specialist divorce attorney
There are many different aspects to the civil and criminal justice system in the United States of America. Therefore, attorneys tend to specialise in one or more legal areas like civil law, criminal law, and contract law.
Thus, when filing for divorce, it makes sense to employ an expert Tacoma divorce attorney to help you navigate the legalities around the divorce process quickly and efficiently. Even though this sounds like the lengthy, expensive option, it is actually cost-effective because the divorce lawyer knows precisely what is required to get the divorce through the civil courts.
Accept that the dissolution of the marital union is an emotional process
While achieving the same result as quotation mentioned above by Gwyneth Paltrow is a noble ambition, the reality is that divorce is ranked as the second most stressful life event that a person can face. It follows closely behind the death of a loved one or family member.
Therefore, it is vital to accept that the divorce will bring up challenging and negative emotions that need to be dealt with in conjunction with a counsellor or psychotherapist. But, it is equally important to attempt to keep emotions and emotional outbursts out of the legal process.
As challenging as this point is to implement, emotional outbursts will impede the divorce settlement negotiations, especially if there are children born as a result of the union. Consequently, it is vital to remember that there are a time and place for emotional outbursts and the processing of the emotions around the divorce, but the civil court is not the place to display these emotions.
Work together to negotiate a fair settlement
Finally, even if the divorce is amicable, it is still a good idea for each party to hire their own attorney to represent their interests. This will help the timeous negotiation of a fair financial settlement between the two parties. Of course, the outcome of these negotiations also depends on the legal contract